Movember is more than just moustaches; it’s a powerful reminder that men’s mental health deserves our attention and action. By raising awareness, challenging stereotypes, and providing support, we can help create a world where men feel empowered to prioritise their mental wellbeing and seek help without hesitation.

The Silent Struggle

It’s a tragic reality that men are far more likely to die by suicide than women. This disparity is a complex issue influenced by societal expectations and traditional gender roles that lead to a reluctance to seek help. Men are often taught to suppress their emotions, to be “strong” and “stoic,” which can create a dangerous internal pressure cooker. When struggles arise, many of us feel isolated, ashamed, or unsure of where to turn.

One of the biggest hurdles is breaking down the stigma surrounding mental health. While we have come a long way, we need to continue creating an environment where men feel comfortable opening up about their feelings, anxieties, and fears. It’s okay not to be okay, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Breaking the Cycle

Let’s be honest, as males we’re not always the best at talking about our feelings. We’ve been raised to bottle things up, to “toughen up” and “be a man.” But why do we see this approach as productive? I’ve seen it first hand, and I’ve felt it myself – that pressure to keep a stiff upper lip can eat you up inside.

So how can we break the cycle?

• Forget the “tough guy” stereotype. Reaching out for help isn’t weakness – it’s actually a sign of real strength. It takes courage to admit you’re struggling and even more guts to take that first step towards getting support. Ignoring the warning signs and trying to soldier on alone isn’t brave; it’s setting yourself up for long-term mental health issues.
  
• Embrace vulnerability. Reaching out can make a world of difference. It can be like taking a huge weight off your shoulders. Suddenly, you’re not carrying that burden alone. You’ve got someone in your corner, someone who understands, someone who can help you find a way through. Reaching out can also give you a fresh perspective and help you see things from a different angle. And don’t forget the sense of connection. When you open up to someone, you’re strengthening that bond and letting them know that you trust them.

Who’s Most at Risk?

While anyone can experience mental health challenges, research indicates that certain groups may be more susceptible. Men working in professions that often involve long hours, physical demands, and social isolation – such as construction, agriculture, and transportation – can be particularly vulnerable. Additionally, middle-aged men face increased risk factors, with suicide rates peaking in this demographic. This complex issue is often linked to various life stressors prevalent during this stage, including job insecurity, financial concerns, family transitions, and relationship breakdowns.

What Can We Do?

• Start a conversation. Reach out to a mate today. Ask them how they’re really doing, and truly listen to their response. You might be surprised at what you learn.
  
• Support a mate in need. If you know someone who’s struggling, offer your support. Let them know you’re there for them, without judgement. Encourage them to seek professional help if needed.
  
• Make a commitment to yourself. Take one step this week towards prioritising your mental wellbeing. Schedule a check-up with your doctor, download a mindfulness app, or commit to a regular exercise routine. There’s no shame in reaching out to a doctor or a counsellor. These professionals are there to help you navigate through tough times.
  
• Challenge the old ways. We need to change the way we think about masculinity. It’s okay to show emotion, to be vulnerable, to ask for help.
• Focus on the positive. Celebrate the small victories and acknowledge your progress. Focus on the positive aspects of your life and the things that bring you joy.
  
• Recovery is possible. Even in the darkest of times, remember that there is hope. With the right support and resources, you will recover. You are not alone.
  
• Spread the word. Share this blog post with the men in your life. Let’s break the stigma together and create a culture where men feel comfortable talking about their mental health.